Have you ever been told that you are not doing enough as a mother simply because you are a working professional? Have you ever been told that you should not spend long hours at work instead of hiring someone else to take care of your child? Lastly, have you ever felt overwhelmed about motherhood and doing it right while doing a forty-hour job every week?
Don’t worry; you are not alone. In this age of women empowerment, it is not unusual for mothers to still be at work while being their children’s Wonder Woman at home. However, there will always be challenges, and you might even think that you should have waited until you are thirty, as society says. Still, there is beauty in being a young professional and mother at the same time.
If you feel the stress that comes with motherhood lately, this article will serve as a friendly reminder of the wonderful things you are doing for yourself and your kids.
You Are Setting an Example to Your Kids
No matter how much hate working mothers get from a traditional society, keep in mind that it is easy to judge someone when you are not in their situation. In this case, you are expected to stay at home and even give up your work. However, by pursuing your career and working, you are setting an excellent example for your kids. Even at an early age, you teach them how to work hard for their dreams and life goals. It is no secret that kids will not understand things their parents are trying to instill in them until they reach the age of their maturity, but kids are the purest beings in the world as well. They might not understand the number of bills you have to pay, but they will see how tired you are when you get home. They will see that you are not always in school recitals but will appreciate the times when you make it just in time.
Being a working mother is tiring, but the level of awareness you are unconsciously imparting to your kids is undeniable. They will grow up with compassion, understanding, and determination because of you and the example you have set. As long as you do not accidentally dump your frustrations and stress on them, your kids will even be more grateful to you when they finally grow up to be adults.
You Are Providing Them With Better Opportunities
Unfortunately, not all American families are financially capable of sending their children to college a few years from now without worries, not to mention medical care, insurance, and the extra-curricular activities your children will be passionate about growing up. Imagine your kid developing enthusiasm and talent for photography, and not just your average TikTok-induced photo snapping, but the eye for the real thing. What if your kid tells you they want to work for National Geographic as a nature photographer? Just think about how much investment you would need to provide him with the most basic and standard DSLR? Also, not to mention lenses and other equipment. The point here is that, no matter how much you want to be with your kids all the time at home, you will be providing them with better opportunities when you are working. Regardless of whether your husband or partner is also working, two is always better than one.
Even with the advent of online learning, you already need to provide top-notch learning equipment for your kids. Furthermore, the hardware will not suffice today. There are paid subscriptions for learning resources and paid tools to improve productivity and security, such as automated performance testing solutions, VPN services, and malware prevention software.
You Are Still Pursuing Your Dreams
Becoming a mother should not mean the end of your personal goals, as many believe. Although where there is fire, there is smoke, and it is because being a mother will take all of your time. It will not change until your kid is off to college, and even then, you will still be worried about what they are doing. Sure, that will take at least eighteen years, and after that, are you sure you can easily step back to your career? Of course, not because many opportunities have already passed.
When you choose to continue working for your career, you will not turn out to be one of those parents in the movies that end up hating being one. That will be unhealthy, and it can affect your children’s growth. Being a mom does not have to mean that you have to give up your career. No, and you are doing this for yourself, which is truly admirable.
Final Thoughts
No matter how much fuss working moms get from society and even other moms, you are doing great. Remember that you are doing even more than stay-at-home moms, which is already something you should be proud of.
